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Y’all Need Therapy: But Let’s Not Pretend Like We Don’t Know

Author: Mawutor Akosua Ametame

If I’m being honest, some of you need therapy more than Ghana needs electricity. Yes, I said it. Don’t fight me, fight ECG. But seriously, have you ever sat on a trotro, overheard someone’s phone conversation, and thought, “This person should be lying on a therapist’s couch somewhere”? If you haven’t, you’re probably the one we’re all worried about.

Why Therapy Isn’t “By Force,” But Maybe It Should Be

In Ghana, when someone says, “Massa, you need help,” it’s often not a compliment. We’re quick to prescribe baking soda and lime for smelly armpits, but when it comes to matters of the mind, we’d rather rub Aboniki balm on our foreheads and sleep it off. Therapy? That’s for “obroni” people who have time to cry about their feelings, right?

Wrong!

Let’s be real, how many times have we swallowed our stress and told ourselves, “Ɛbɛyɛ yie” (It will be well)? Yes, hope is good, but hope can’t fix generational trauma. Some of us are walking around carrying the weight of our ancestors’ unpaid bride prices, family curses, and every heartbreak since SHS. Please, talk to someone.

The Funny Things We Normalize

You’ll see Kofi posting motivational quotes like, “Pain is temporary, but pride is forever.” Meanwhile, Kofi hasn’t processed his breakup from 2014. Abena says, “I don’t need anyone,” yet she’s typing “Hi” and deleting it every time her ex comes online.

Let’s not forget the uncles who shout, “Boys don’t cry,” yet their blood pressure is higher than Accra rent.

And don’t get me started on church. Ghanaians can shout, “Fire burn bad dreams!” but when you suggest therapy, they’ll rebuke you in tongues. Listen, I’m not saying prayer doesn’t work, I’ve seen God move mountains but sometimes, God is telling you to call a therapist. Don’t ignore the divine direction.

African Parents and Therapy

Try telling your Ghanaian mother you need therapy. She’ll look at you like you said Kenkey is from Nigeria. “Therapy for what? Are you not eating? Don’t you have a roof over your head?” They’ll even remind you how they walked barefoot to school and survived wars you weren’t born to see. Classic guilt trip.

But here’s the thing: African parents need therapy too. Some of their rules? Pure trauma in disguise. Like the one that says you can’t sit in the living room when visitors come. Why? Is the sofa allergic to me?

Making It Normal, One Step at a Time

The good news is, therapy is slowly catching on. Some Ghanaians are actually booking sessions not because they’re “mad,” but because they want to heal, grow, and stop crying every time an Adele or Sam Smith song reminds them of their ex.

If you’re not ready for therapy, start small. Call that one friend who knows how to listen (not the one who’ll spread your gist at the next wedding). Journal your thoughts, even if it’s just to rant about how your sakawa neighbor’s music is louder than your peace of mind.

When You Finally Go to Therapy

Imagine this: you’ve braved the odds, saved your coins, and booked a therapy session. You sit down and the therapist says, “So, why are you here?” Suddenly, your Ghanaian instincts kick in:

“Hmm, I don’t even know where to start.”

“It’s not like I’m mad, oh.”

“It’s just that, sometimes, life is…you know…hard.”

But that’s okay! Starting is the hardest part. Soon, you’ll be spilling all your secrets like the time you told your boss you were stuck in traffic, but really, you were at home eating Banku.

Y’all Need Therapy And It’s Okay

At the end of the day, therapy isn’t about fixing broken people, it’s about helping you navigate this thing called life. And trust me, life in Ghana needs all the navigation tools we can get.

Therapy isn’t just for heartbreak or stress; it’s for figuring out why you want to strangle someone every time they call you “Bossu” but refuse to pay back your money. Or why you still feel guilty about eating that meat pie your younger sibling was saving in 2003.

So go ahead, and schedule that session. Because the truth is, while you’re out there telling people to “stay strong,” your mental health deserves more than Gob3.

And if anyone tells you therapy is for “mad people,” tell them, “Yes, and we’re all mad in this country anyway. So what’s your point?”

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One Day When We Lay Our Mortals By

Author: Mawutor Akosua Ametame

Life has a funny way of throwing curveballs at us, and sometimes, those curveballs force us to confront our existence in unexpected ways. Early this year, I had a near-death experience that left me both shaken and introspective, with a healthy sprinkle of humor to lighten the heaviness of the topic.

It was just another ordinary day when I found myself alone at home, a rarity in my usually bustling life. With no one around to distract me, I decided to indulge in a pack of noodles, craving the comfort of carbs. In my infinite wisdom, I ordered the noodles with extra pepper, thinking I was being adventurous. Little did I know, I was signing up for a culinary disaster.

As the night wore on, I settled down, satisfied and full, only to be jolted awake by a sudden panic. I felt like I was choking, and my throat was burning from the pepper that I so enthusiastically requested. It was as if my body was staging a protest against my poor culinary choices. Despite my nose being wide open, I couldn’t catch a breath. I was gasping for air like a fish out of water, and let me tell you, this was not the moment to regret my late-night noodle decision.

In a moment of sheer panic, I ran to the bathroom, feeling both nauseous and, let’s be honest, slightly dramatic. There I was, throwing up and struggling with stomach cramps, all while pondering the cruel irony of my situation: here I was, missing out on the chance to go out and enjoy good food and maybe even meet some fine boys. Instead, I was sitting on the cold bathroom floor, contemplating life and my unfortunate food choices.

I desperately needed my phone to call for help, but it felt like it was miles away. With every ounce of strength, I crawled back to the bedroom, hoping to reach my phone before the darkness swallowed me whole. I stretched out my hand, grasping for my lifeline, but then everything went dark. Talk about a dramatic plot twist!

When I woke up the next morning, I was surprised to find myself alive and well. I felt like I had time-traveled through a horror movie and emerged on the other side. As I went about my day, doing the usual chores, the reality of what had happened slowly crept back to me. I thought, “What if I had died last night?” I could just picture it: “Local food enthusiast dies tragically from over-pepperized noodles. Last meal included an excessive amount of regret.” Not exactly how I wanted to be remembered!

That experience left me with some profound questions about life and the fleeting nature of our time on this earth. One day, when we lay our mortals by, what will we leave behind? Will it be a legacy of adventurous food choices, or perhaps the memory of all the fine boys we never met because we were too busy choking on our late-night snacks?

This near-death experience was more than just a scary night; it was a wake-up call. It made me realize how fragile life is and how quickly things can change. It encouraged me to appreciate every moment, savor the good food, and not let fear hold me back from meeting new people.

So, here’s my advice: live fully, laugh often, and don’t take yourself too seriously. Embrace the messy moments, whether it’s overindulging in spicy noodles or missing out on a night out. Cherish the relationships you have, reach out to loved ones, and be open to the adventures that life throws your way.

And who knows? One day, when we lay our mortals by, I hope to be remembered not just for my near-death experience but for the joy I spread, the connections I made, and perhaps, a few hilarious stories about how I almost choked on noodles instead of having a romantic dinner.

Life is a beautiful gift, filled with laughter, love, and, yes, the occasional bad food choice. So let’s embrace it all and make every day count!

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Being a Fool for Love? Nah, I’m Not Signing Up for That

Author: Mawutor Akosua Ametame

You know the old saying, “love makes you do foolish things”? Well, I’m here to tell you NO THANKS!  I don’t believe in being a fool for love. I’m a proud non-believer in the whole concept. And before you think I’m just being cynical, hear me out.

Love Isn’t About Losing Your Mind

Look, love is beautiful. But should it turn us into fools? Absolutely not. I believe love should uplift and inspire us, not make us question our sanity. God didn’t design love to have us running in circles, desperately trying to hold onto someone who treats us like a backup plan. No one has greater love for us than God and Jesus Christ, and here’s the kicker: they never asked us to be fools in the name of love.

Where’s the Wisdom in Being a Fool?

If we’re honest, being a fool for love often leads to heartbreak, exhaustion, and endless cycles of pain. Love shouldn’t feel like a constant struggle where you’re the only one putting in the effort. If you find yourself always waiting for someone to change, or holding onto someone who clearly doesn’t value you, it’s time to ask yourself, “Is this the love I deserve?”

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying love is easy or that relationships don’t have their rough patches. But love is a partnership, not a one-person rescue mission. God gave us common sense for a reason, so let’s use it! If anything, they want us to love wisely. After all, Proverbs 4:7 says, “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore, get wisdom.” So, where’s the wisdom in being a fool for love? Spoiler alert: There isn’t any.

Real Love Is Balanced

When you look at God’s love, it’s perfectly balanced. Jesus gave His life for us, not so we could live in emotional chaos, but so we could experience love that’s pure, wise, and uplifting. Nowhere does it say He wants us to sacrifice our self-respect in the process. He calls us to love others as we love ourselves which means self-love has to come first.

“I Stayed Because I Love Him”—Said Every Fool, Ever

Let’s be real. We’ve all heard the excuses: “I stayed because I love him” or “She’ll change.” Newsflash: If someone consistently disrespects you or takes you for granted, staying isn’t noble, it’s foolish. A relationship isn’t a charity event where you hand out endless second chances.

I don’t care how much you think you love someone, if they have you feeling less than or questioning your worth, that’s not love it’s manipulation. Trust me, God wants better for you. He’s not rooting for you to be a martyr in a one-sided romance.

The Only Foolproof Love Is God’s Love

Let’s face it, being a fool for love is overrated. The only foolproof love that exists is the one God has for us. It’s unconditional, unfailing, and most importantly, wise. It doesn’t ask us to dim our light for anyone or settle for less.

A Little Humour Never Hurt

And hey, a little joke to wrap this up: If you’re considering being a fool for love, just remember, there’s a reason they call it falling in love, not tripping over yourself for love. 😄

And hey, if you ever find yourself in doubt, just ask yourself what would Jesus do? Probably not send that “I miss you” text to someone who hasn’t replied in 3 months. Let’s keep it moving, folks.

So, let’s leave the foolishness to comedy and save our hearts for the love that builds us, not breaks us.

No more fools in love—just people who know their worth. Here’s to loving smart!

No more love blindfolds—just hearts that see clearly. Here’s to loving wisely!

No more hopeless romantics—only hopeful realists. Love smart, live happy!

No more chasing after love—just walking alongside it, with eyes wide open.

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Cold Feet

Embracing Uncertainty and Taking the Leap

Author: Mawutor Akosua Ametame

We’ve all been there—standing at the edge of a big decision, feeling a wave of uncertainty wash over us. Our hearts race, our minds spin, and suddenly, we get the urge to step back. This feeling, known as “cold feet,” can hit us in all areas of life whether it’s about relationships, career choices, or personal goals. But what if these moments of hesitation aren’t just obstacles but chances to grow? Let’s dive into what cold feet really mean, why they happen, and how embracing them can lead to some of the best experiences of our lives.

What Is Cold Feet?

Cold feet happen when doubt and fear suddenly strike just before we’re about to make a big commitment or decision. It’s that moment when the weight of what’s ahead suddenly feels overwhelming, and we start questioning everything. Am I making the right choice? What if this goes horribly wrong? These thoughts can be paralyzing, making us second-guess ourselves and sometimes even run from what we were about to do.

Why Do We Get Cold Feet?

Understanding why we get cold feet is key to dealing with it. Here are some common reasons why we hesitate:

Fear of the Unknown: Stepping into something new can be scary. Our brains are wired to seek safety, so the unknown naturally makes us anxious.

Fear of Failure: The thought of failing and dealing with the fallout can be terrifying. We might worry about not living up to our own expectations or those of others.

Self-Doubt: Sometimes, we just don’t believe in ourselves enough. We might question if we deserve the opportunity or if we’re capable of succeeding.

Social Pressure: The expectations of society or family can add to our fears. The pressure to fit in or please others can make us afraid to take a different path.

How to Embrace Cold Feet

Instead of seeing cold feet as a sign that something’s wrong, we can look at it as a natural part of making decisions. Here’s how to embrace and move through it:

Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel scared and unsure. Recognizing these emotions without judging yourself is the first step in dealing with them.

Remember Your Why: Think back to why you wanted to make this decision in the first place. What motivated you? Reconnecting with your reasons can reignite your passion.

Evaluate the Risks and Rewards: Take a clear look at what could go wrong and what could go right. Seeing both sides can help you put your fears into perspective.

Seek Support: Talk to friends, family, or mentors about your worries. Their advice and encouragement can give you the reassurance you need.

Take Small Steps: Break down your decision into smaller, manageable steps. Focusing on one thing at a time can make the whole process feel less overwhelming.

Visualize Success: Picture yourself succeeding and enjoying the benefits of your decision. This can boost your confidence and reduce your anxiety.

A Personal Story: Taking the Leap

Let me share a story about my friend Christabel. She had cold feet before making a big career change. After years in a stable but boring job, she decided to follow her passion for baking. As the day to start her new venture got closer, she was filled with doubts. What if she wasn’t good enough? What if she failed? But she decided to take the leap, acknowledging her fears but focusing on her love for baking. Today, Christabel. runs a successful bakery business and often looks back at her cold feet as just another step on her path to a fulfilling life.

Conclusion: The Courage to Keep Going

Cold feet are something we all experience, a sign that we’re on the edge of something important. By seeing hesitation as a natural part of growth, we can turn fear into motivation. By understanding our fears, getting support, and taking small steps, we can move forward with courage and confidence.

And hey, next time cold feet start creeping in, just remember: it’s like standing in front of an ice-cold swimming pool. The water might seem freezing, but once you jump in, you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. So take a deep breath, hold your nose, and dive right in. You might just find the water’s not so bad after all—unless, of course, you forgot to take off your socks. Then things might get a little awkward!

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See Finish

When Familiarity Goes Too Far

Author: Mawutor Akosua Ametame

In Nigeria, there’s a term people use when someone becomes too familiar and starts to take you for granted. This term is “See Finish.” It describes that moment when someone knows you so well that they start to lose respect and forget boundaries. It’s like when you’ve seen everything about a person, and nothing surprises you anymore.

See Finish at Work

Let’s start with the workplace. Imagine you’ve just started a new job. You’re on your best behavior, dressing sharply and arriving early every day. You greet everyone with a smile, and you’re eager to prove yourself. But after a few months, things change. You start coming in late, your desk becomes a mess, and you treat your boss’s requests with a bit of an attitude. What happened? “See Finish” happened. You’ve gotten too comfortable, and the respect you once had for the job has faded.

But it’s not just you. Your colleagues might start to take advantage of you as well. At first, they ask nicely if you can help them with something. But after a while, they start assuming you’ll always help, without even asking politely. They’ve seen your helpful side too many times, and now they’re taking it for granted.

See Finish in Friendships

“See Finish” also shows up in friendships. Think about a new friend you made. In the beginning, you’re both on your best behavior. You go out of your way to be considerate and polite. But as time goes on, things change. Your friend starts coming over unannounced, helping themselves to your fridge, and even borrowing things without asking. They’ve become too comfortable, and they’re now acting like your home is theirs. You might also notice this in the way they talk to you. At first, they were careful with their words, always trying to be kind. But after “See Finish” sets in, they might start making jokes at your expense or dismissing your opinions. They’ve seen everything there is to see about you, and now they’re not as careful with their words or actions.

See Finish in Romantic Relationships

Romantic relationships are another common place for “See Finish” to appear. When you first start dating someone, everything feels new and exciting. You go out of your way to look good, plan fun dates, and keep things interesting. But as the relationship becomes more serious, things start to change. You both get more comfortable, which is natural, but sometimes that comfort leads to taking each other for granted.

Maybe you stop doing the little things that used to make your partner feel special, like surprising them with their favorite treat or planning a fun outing. You might start taking shortcuts, like spending more time on your phone when you’re together, or not putting in as much effort to keep the romance alive. “See Finish” has crept in, and now the relationship feels less special because you’ve become too familiar with each other.

See Finish with Family

Family is often where “See Finish” starts, especially with siblings. Your brothers or sisters have known you your whole life, so they might not always show you the respect you deserve. They burst into your room without knocking, take your stuff without asking, and talk to you like you’re still a little kid. They’ve seen you at your best and worst, and because of that, they sometimes forget that you’re a person who deserves respect.

Parents can also fall into this trap. When you’re a child, they’re more careful with how they treat you. But as you grow up, they might start to see you as an adult who can handle anything, forgetting that you still need their support and kindness. “See Finish” can lead them to treat you more like a roommate than a child they care about.

Avoiding See Finish

So, how do you keep “See Finish” from ruining your relationships? The key is to keep setting boundaries and reminding people of your worth. Just because someone knows you well doesn’t mean they should forget to respect you. It’s important to have conversations about how you want to be treated, whether it’s with friends, family, or at work.

For example, if a friend starts showing up unannounced, politely ask them to call first. If a colleague starts taking advantage of your kindness, let them know that your help is not guaranteed and they should ask nicely. In romantic relationships, keep putting in the effort to surprise and appreciate each other. Small gestures can go a long way in keeping the relationship fresh.

The Bright Side of See Finish

While “See Finish” can be a problem, it also shows that you’ve built strong connections with the people around you. It’s a sign that you’re close enough to be completely yourself with them. Sometimes, you can laugh about the ways “See Finish” shows up in your life. After all, not everyone gets to experience this level of comfort and familiarity with others.

So, the next time someone starts to take you for granted, remember that it’s okay to set some boundaries and remind them of the respect you deserve. But also, appreciate the fact that you’re close enough to someone that they feel comfortable enough to let their guard down around you. “See Finish” is a part of life, and with the right approach, you can keep it from turning your relationships sour.

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Don’t Go To Weddings Hungry…….Funerals Too.

A Comical Guide to Dodging Hunger Pangs

Author: Mawutor Akosua Ametame

We’ve all been there. You arrive at a wedding or funeral, your stomach growling louder than a thunderstorm, and the food is still hours away. Let’s navigate the tricky waters of event etiquette with humor and practical advice to ensure you never face those dreaded hunger pangs again.

The Dreaded Hunger Games

Arriving at an event hungry is like stepping onto a battlefield unarmed. Here’s why you should never go to weddings hungry… funerals too:

The Ceremony Marathon: Weddings and funerals are known for their long ceremonies. From lengthy vows to endless speeches, you could starve before the main course arrives.

The Grumbling Soundtrack: Stomach growls during heartfelt vows or solemn eulogies? It’s the stuff of nightmares. Spare yourself the embarrassment and feed that growling beast before it makes a cameo.

The Hangry Monster Lurks: Hungry guests are not fun guests. Avoid turning into a hangry monster by ensuring your belly is well-fed before the event.

Tactical Maneuvers for Survival

Fuel Up Beforehand: It’s a simple rule, yet often forgotten. Eat a hearty meal or snack before venturing into the event jungle. Your future self will thank you.

Pack Emergency Rations: Don’t leave home without a stash of emergency snacks. Plantain chips, nuts, or even a sneaky sandwich can be a lifesaver when hunger strikes.

Strategic Seating: Scout out the event venue and position yourself near the food. At weddings, aim for a spot close to the buffet; at funerals, hover near the post-service gathering area.

Befriend the Caterers: Forge alliances with the catering staff and unlock the secrets to early access to appetizers or the coveted dessert table. A charming smile can work wonders.

Tales from the Hunger Frontlines

The Wedding Crasher: Imagine the horror: a starved guest crashing headfirst into the buffet table in a desperate bid for sustenance. Don’t let this be your legacy.

The Funeral Fiasco: Mourning the loss of a loved one is tough enough without battling hunger pangs. Spare yourself the misery and ensure your stomach is adequately prepped for the occasion.

Conclusion: Enjoy the Event, Not the Hunger

In the grand scheme of things, it’s always better to be well-prepared. With a little planning and a good sense of humor, you can avoid the hunger traps at weddings and funerals and make the most of the event.

Remember, it’s not just about keeping your stomach from growling. It’s about being present and enjoying the moments without being distracted by hunger. Plus, we don’t want to add extra stress for the hosts who have already worked hard to provide for their guests. So, do yourself and them a favor: eat at home first.

Here’s to attending events with full bellies and happy hearts. Let’s keep the focus on the celebration and not on our hunger. May your next wedding be filled with love and laughter, and your next funeral be a heartfelt tribute without the tummy rumbles. Stay fed, stay content, and enjoy every moment. Bon appétit!

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DND: Do Not Disturb!

Author: Mawutor Akosua Ametame

DND: Navigating the Silence in a Noisy World

In a world that never seems to quiet down, the concept of “Do Not Disturb” (DND) holds a special significance: a moment of respite amidst the constant clamor of everyday life. Let’s explore the multifaceted nature of DND and the profound truths it reveals about our need for solitude, sanctuary, and self-care.

Seeking Solitude in a Noisy World

Finding moments of peace and quiet can feel like a rare and valuable gift in a world full of noise, whether it be from the constant buzz of notifications, the clamor of traffic, or the unending chatter of social media. DND provides a quiet haven where we can withdraw, refuel, and reaffirm our connection to ourselves.

Setting Boundaries in a Hyperconnected Age

In an era of constant connectivity, the boundaries between work and leisure, day and night, can become blurred. DND serves as a reminder that we are not beholden to the demands of others 24/7 that it’s okay to carve out time for ourselves, free from the interruptions and distractions that so often define modern life.

Prioritizing Self-Care in a Culture of Hustle

In a culture that celebrates constant activity and productivity, setting boundaries and focusing on self-care can feel groundbreaking. Using DND is a way of affirming our self-worth. It is a statement that our time and energy are important, and we deserve to prioritize our well-being above everything else.

Embracing the Silence, Embracing Ourselves

In the silence of DND, we have an opportunity to turn inward, to listen to the whispers of our own thoughts and feelings. It’s a chance to reconnect with our true selves, away from the distractions and expectations of the outside world. In embracing the silence, we embrace ourselves (flaws, vulnerabilities, and all).

Finding Peace in Silence

In a world that never stops talking, DND gives us a moment of quiet, a chance to pause, breathe, and just be. It’s a reminder that even in the chaos and noise of daily life, there is beauty in silence and strength in stillness. So, the next time you turn on DND, remember you’re not just silencing your notifications you’re reclaiming your time, your space, and your right to peace.


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WELCOME TO KELEWELE FUSION

Why “Kelewele Fusion”?

You might be asking, “Why Kelewele Fusion?” Well, just like kelewele is a tasty mix of spices, our blog mixes all the interesting parts of life. We talk about everything—from funny moments and love stories to business tips and daily life advice. Life is better with a little spice, and we want to bring that to you.

Our Slogan: “Taste the Fusion, Live the Life”

Our slogan is “Taste the Fusion, Live the Life.” We want you to enjoy every part of life, just like you enjoy a delicious piece of kelewele. Read our posts and feel the mix of experiences that make life exciting and fun. Each story and tip is here to add some zest to your day.

So, get ready to enjoy a mix of fun and helpful posts. Welcome to the colorful world of Kelewele Fusion. Your life will be more interesting and enjoyable with us.

Stay happy, stay curious, and enjoy life!

With love and smiles,

The Kelewele Fusion Team